What do you really want in life?
Most people don’t discover what they want in life until it’s time to die – and that’s a shame.
Most people spend the best years of their lives watching television or doing things they dislike. An author described humanity by saying, “Most people die at twenty and are buried at eighty.†Are you one of the living zombies?
What do you really want in life?
Some people struggle in answering such question. When asked what they want or what their goals in life are, many are unsure. They dillydally in their decision, hardly giving any thought about what they want in life. People without definite goals are letting time pass them by. Are you one of these people?
If you are undecided about what you want out of life, do not worry. There are many ways of discovering your purpose in life.
To discover what you want in life, try looking deep into your heart.
Oftentimes, people are ruled by logic. People live by what they think they should be or by what others like them to be. The discovery process is the perfect time to listen to your heart. What your heart desires comes from the whispers of your authentic self. Your authentic self is the real you.
Listen to your heart to be able to listen to your authentic self. What your heart says usually feels right. What your heart desires is what you usually love to do and this represents your passion. Anything done with passion is like play where the task is accomplished without hesitation. You pour out your very best and feel no pressure or resistance.
You will totally enjoy doing things that are your passion. Setbacks, difficulties, and obstacles will make it more challenging, but should not deter you from pursuing your goals. Naturally, there may be barriers that may prevent you from reaching your goal, but your heart’s desire will find ways to overcome these barriers so that you may ultimately get what you want in life. Remember this: the universe supports people who are pursuing their passion and those who are pursuing their destiny.
However, this does not mean that you don’t use your head. People are born with both the mind and heart. Your duty is to live your best life and be in harmony with your mind and heart. The poet Rumi wisely said, “Live completely in the head and you cannot feel the breath and rhythm of life. Live completely in the heart and you may find yourself acting like a love-struck fool with poor judgment and discipline. It’s all a fine balance – the head and heart must forge a lifetime partnership if one wants to live a beautiful life.â€
Listen to your instinct
. Part of human nature is the mysterious and spontaneous reaction on things. Often times, these are called instincts. Your authentic self communicates with you and guides you via instincts. Instincts are those gentle nudges that urge you to act and follow a certain path. Your role then is to listen attentively.
Often times, we listen to what others say and allow them to run our lives. Parents often do this to their children. “We come from a family of doctors, so my son must also be a doctor.†How often do we hear this from parents who have good intentions for their children? Parents unconsciously block the true expression of their child’s real self and calling. Friends and critics will discourage you and point out the impossibility of your dream. Before heeding their advice, evaluate the accomplishments of the critics. Did they achieve theirs dreams? Do they dream big at all?
Remember, it is your destiny that is in line, not theirs. It doesn’t mean, though, that you will not listen to what other people say. Hear them out just the same. But the final decision should be yours.
There is only thing to remember: Every person, to live truly and greatly, must define how he wants to live and what his brightest life will look like.Listen to your instincts and follow your heart’s desire. You will never go wrong.
I have found your insight and wisdom quite helpful. You have been quite blessed with your wisdom. I guess I would benefit with help for the courage to press on with these decisions that need to be made. Any directions? Thank you for your time.
Lori
Lori,
Thank you for your kind words.
I would encourage you to do what I suggested in the article above: Look within.
Ask yourself these questions:
1) “What truly brings joy to my life?”
Every person has a “passion” in life for something. Unfortunately, most people as they grow and “mature” stifle and suppress their passions and follow paths that don’t necessarily make them happy or fulfilled.
They chase money and recognition and approval from their peers instead of chasing their dreams. This path only leads to living an unfulfilled and (IMHO) a wasted life.
What makes your heart skip a beat, Lori? What could you BE and DO everyday that would put a “pep in your step” and a smile on your face, without any monetary, social or approval-type of gain-just inner fulfillment?
That more than likely IS your passion.
2) “What can I be THE VERY BEST at (or one of the best)?”
The reality is that you have much to offer the world through your God-Given gifts. Your unique gifts were given to you for two reasons:
1) To serve your fellow man: As you GIVE YOUR GIFT away in service to others, it grows; it is perfected and produces more joy and clarity of purpose for YOU!
2) To lead you to your destiny: Your gift will take you in the direction of your dreams and true purpose for your existence.
Your gift is much bigger than you and is for the benefit of others NOT just yourself.
3) “How can I leverage my passion and gifts so that I can be the most effective in ALL that I do?”
Most people’s passions don’t employ their unique gifts and therefore their passions are only fulfilled through “hobbies”.
I personally believe that you should couple at least one of your passions with one of your gifts (this is very easy when you have identified your gifts clearly) and use it to take care of your own financial needs.
Most of people have no choice but to invest most of their time into work in order to provide for themselves and their families.
Nothing wrong with that.
“…the worker deserves his wages”. Luke 10:7, The Bible
However, doesn’t it make sense that the time you spend
daily should be spent doing something you LOVE to do AND that you get paid for it?
This is exactly how I live my life and everyday is an adventure for me. I do what I am passionate about and LOVE to do…I do it for fun, but I’m also getting paid to have fun doing what I love to do!
The greatest personal development book ever written: The Bible says:
“Moreover, when God gives any man wealth and possessions, and enables him to enjoy them, to accept his lot and be happy in his work—this is a gift of God.”
Ecclesiastes 5:19
So ask yourself those questions; ponder them, write down the answers and then pursue them with all of your heart.
In doing just that you will set yourself apart from 90% of the rest.
Make it a GREAT DAY!